Lately I have been thinking a lot about “living
gently.” A few days ago a friend of mine posted this quote attributed to
Buddha, “In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently
you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.” I had shared this quote on Facebook prefaced by the comment, “The last two are hard for
me. Living gently and letting go
are not my strong suits.
By contrast I have always completely identified
with the individuals described in the opening lines in Marge Piercy’s poem, To Be of Use:
The people I love the best
jump into work head first
without dallying in the shallows
and swim off with sure strokes almost out
of sight.
They seem to become natives of that
element,
the black sleek heads of seals
bouncing like half submerged balls.
I love people who harness themselves, an ox
to a heavy cart,
who pull like water buffalo, with massive
patience,
who strain in the mud and the muck to move
things forward,
who do what has to be done, again and again.
There is no question
in my mind that Marge would have loved me.
But these days I am
trying pause before diving head first into anything. I am trying to learn to dally
in the shallows.
It has been six weeks
since my last, and what turned out to be my final, chemotherapy treatment. Since that time I have been through two
more cycles of Herceptin, the targeted biological therapy that is used on HER2+
breast cancer patients. If my
heart function improves, or at least does not diminish, I will continue with
the Herceptin (delivered via Violet, my trusty purple power port) through April
2014. Next week, I will most
likely begin Anastrozole, which is the hormone therapy used to treat breast cancer
that is estrogen positive. More
drugs, more side effects. Insert
big sigh.
At this time, things not meant for me, include the
image of myself as someone who never even remembers to take vitamins let alone
other medications, who is willing and able to go anywhere as long as I have my
passport and my credit card, and who can dive in, work all day like a horse and
get any job done that I think needs to get done.
Next week includes
beginning of the year workshops and meetings at school. First year students arrive over Labor
Day weekend and classes begin on the third of September. And, yes, I am going back to work on a
full-time basis.
My syllabi are far
from finished, and I am moving more slowly than my usual breakneck pace, but on
a much deeper level I am ready to go back. While I am trying to live more gently, and gracefully let go
of things not meant for me it is not
yet time for me to let go of my role as a teacher. And for that, I am extremely grateful.